I read somewhere that I should do the bulk of my organising and purchasing in the second trimester, when I am least tired and most up to it. As the second trimester draws to a close, I’m not sure whether I am organised or not.
I don’t have a hospital organised. My apps are telling me to start drawing up a birth plan, but without knowing where I might want to give birth, I’m not sure how to draw up a birth plan. I’m not sure I actually *want* a birth plan, as I would like to be relaxed and open minded about how Pip chooses to come, but perhaps others who’ve done this before might weigh in.
We don’t have a flat to live in. As of 5 weeks time, we are officially/techinically homeless. And, as soon as we become homeless, I technically don’t have a GP or a midwife either. (of course, none of our families will let us actually be homeless. I just mean we’ve given notice on our cottage and haven’t agreed to or signed a lease on a new property in London).
And yet, and yet, I have organised some things. Baby clothes – Pip has been given three bags of clothes from various friends and will never be lacking in little suits or knitted cardigans. Or, he won’t until he grows out of 0-3 months size. We might struggle then. We have a moses basket. A pram. A steriliser. 2 bottles. A little striped hat. And a teeny tiny elephant with a very chewable trunk. [We still need sheets and muslins. And a changing mat and some nappies]. Do we need a sling straightaway, or can we wait?
A date for the baby shower has been agreed on and save the dates sent out. (No address though).
I haven’t registered for any ante-natal classes. We are still undecided on NCT. I am just not sure I am willing to pay £280 to essentially meet some people. (although, if I do, you may seem some advertising appear here. no other way to pay for it). The baby first aid course still needs to be booked.
The thing is, until Pip comes, how will we truly know what we need. When Delilah arrived we bought her a basket which she has refused to set paw in and two mouse toys which she only occasionally plays with. What if Pip is like that, only on a larger scale. If he refuses to sleep in his basket, we have no cot. If he won’t breastfeed, I haven’t got a pump, only 2 bottles that came free from Boots.
More and more, being pregnant reminds me of being engaged. There appears to be no limit to the guilt you can be made to feel and the expenses that you can be made to feel are essential. My only aim was to limit the amount of new things we have to get for Pip. To date, I have bought new the pram, a microwaveable steriliser and a baby bath. I think the sheets and muslins will have to be new when (if?) I get around to sorting them out.
Any advice? Anything I’ve missed?